My poor little blog! I am working like crazy, and I've neglected you. I'm buried under a big translation project, but once I'm finished with it, I promise to resurface on the internet again.
Last week was my fourth Braziliversary, and I've been so swamped that I haven't even had time to tell you all about it yet! (Check out the posts on my first, second, and third Braziliversaries using the links, and muse over the changes in our looks.)
There isn't that much to tell about this year's Braziliversary dinner. We went to sushi. We asked the waiter to take a picture. He was less successful than past Braziliversary picture-takers.
The guys at the table next to us were actually Japanese, and speaking Japanese, which I think speaks well for the restaurant. (Or maybe not -- it could've been a situation not unlike the time when Alexandre's family in Salvador decided to be nice and take me to a Mexican restaurant.)
The food was good, Alexandre cringed over taking a picture as always, and it was a nice night to reflect.
This year, I'm happy to say that we live a life that feels "normal" to me (i.e., in a community that is safe and with neighbors and friends who largely share my routine and my values). That means that I don't feel like I'm constantly in a context, ya know? Have you thought about that, if you are a foreigner living abroad? How often are you reminded of the fact that you are you, but how you may not be in the place where the you who you are became that you?
This idea of living in a context reminds me of young Stephan Dedalus in Portrait when he is trying to study geography and is inspired to make an expanding list of who he is relative to where he is: "Stephen Dedalus / Class of Elements / Clongowes Wood College / Sallins / County Kildare / Ireland / Europe / The World / The Universe." (That's also a shout-out to my Irish blog buddy, Pernambucano Gypsy.)
Yes, well. Until moving to this new city (I thought of a nickname for it, by the way, more on that later), I think I was almost daily reminded of the fact that I was me, but out of context. But now the context feels normal. I think it's partly because I've gotten used to things in Brazil, and partly because Brazil has changed my definition of "me," but it's mostly because this city is more "America-like". That means those context-reflecting moments are fewer and farther between.
All this normalcy, as President Hoover would say (I'm being extra snobby with my allusions this evening), meant that Alexandre and I could spend a little more time celebrating the survival of our relationship rather than my survival in Brazil. You may remember my brief comments on our rocky points last year -- some of you got much more detail -- but I'm happy to report that, thanks to our move, my ability to work and use my brain and make friends, and Alexandre's healthier job environment and work schedule, things are all smoothed over and we're back on track.
I really believe that this 5th year is where it's at! I don't think it necessarily takes 5 years to get adjusted to Brazil, but I think this intersection of my time in Brazil and my "road in life" is really a promising one.
Oh, and I came up with a nickname for the new city: I'm going to call it Springfieldjee. Get it? Get it? Har har? I thought of it while watching The Simpsons, dubbed (one thing I'll just never get used to in Brazil). On the Simpsons, there's a running joke that their city is so "normal" and "typically American" that the show never says which state the Simpsons' Springfield is in. (There's one particularly funny episode where I think the whole family is sitting on their roof, or at some kind of vista point or something, and they can see all kinds of random states from where they are.) Anyway, I think "Springfieldjee" is a perfect nickname for where we live now because:
1. I don't want to tell you where it is.
2. The city feels very "normal" and "American".
3. It's still Brazil, which means it has a Brazilian twist, à lá the Portuguese-inflected pronunciation of the word "Springfield" as "Springfieldjee"
4. My friend Nancy loves The Simpsons, and she's one of my few friends from the US who still faithfully reads my blog.
:) :)
Stay tuned for more! ...Eventually.
Thursday, April 19, 2012
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You both look so happy :). That's the most important :).
ReplyDeleteI wish I could say that I look forward for the 40th Braziliversary, but I'm not sure you would be happy about that ;).
Parabéns!!!!
ReplyDeleteI was wondering where you went. You guys look so good! I am happy that you are feeling this is a great transition for you, both with Brazil and each other. Wishing you much happiness between now and the next Braziliversary post!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy Braziliversary!
ReplyDeleteI completely sympathize with your feelings about finally being able to concentrate on your relationship now that life is settling down a bit. I feel like moving to San Francisco has given Lee and I the chance to appreciate each other and everything we have in life.
You and Alex are so wonderful together! I'm glad I got to spend time with both of you in SF!
Congrats on the 4th anniversary. And you've managed to do it without being committed to an institution! Don't think I could make it that long. Cheers for the shout out! ;)
ReplyDeleteWow! Congratulations! You guys look adorable, so the old city didn't wear on you too much. So glad you are happy in your new one!
ReplyDeleteWe'll be at 2 years in July, and I'm really hoping it doesn't take four for me to feel normal. As they say in Brazil - aye, aye, aye!
My gal is from the Amazon, Belem, Brazil. Was there last summer for three weeks. Everyone spoke Portuguese except for a couple of people who spoke English, I speak Texian. Three weeks of very little conversation. Total bliss for a quiet guy like me. :-)
ReplyDeleteFirst, lady I still read your blog. Shame!! =)
ReplyDelete2nd, Matt Groening finally revealed the true location of Springfield. Wait for it......Springfield, Oregon near where he grew up
Happy Anniversary! Time flies!
Happy Braziliversary!!! It's true, you guys look great, very happy and at peace...
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your anniversary. I think the picture is lovely. You look so good together. Love you both Nanny xoxo
ReplyDeleteI really like your blog! I just moved to Brazil in September to see how things are with my long term Brazilian boyfriend and learn more about Brazil. I relate to a lot of your posts...thanks for some good reading!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your Braziliversary!
ReplyDeleteI went through a rough patch in 2010-2011 in Spain, and I'm hoping 2012-2013 will be much better, based on better living arrangements, more things to do, and lack of a shitty job with horrible teenagers. :)
Your Alexandre is so camera/blog shy! Guess I'm lucky that Mario is not soooo bad. Although he in no way wants me to post our engaged status on Facebook, boo.
Holy crap I love the Simpsons reference!!!! And I love your blog, I always refer it to other people if the correct context comes up.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you have finally found a place of normalcy. No more horrendous/ entertaining stories of chain smoking neighbors who blast music all day and night?
Danielle, I stumbled on your blog while reading Franco's "Peach, Plum, Orange" and immediately connected to what you wrote about feeling "out of context" in a foreign city. I have felt that a lot recently, and I'm finding that I am addicted to the feeling of thrusting myself into new environments to see how I will react. I love seeing what version of myself is reflected in new places. I worry whether I'll actually be able to settle back into the place that once was "my context" (the States).
ReplyDeleteI am glad you've begun to feel more settled and in-context in your fifth year in Brazil!
- Meghan